“…And I won’t accept anyone telling me something is “unrealistic.”” – Lilly Singh
I’ve been told that my own dreams of being a fashion stylist & choreographer are “unrealistic” and that I have should have a “plan B.” I never understood those terms. And I don’t intend to learn what those terms mean. I don’t need to.
When I was younger, I wanted to be a fashion designer & a dancer. Now, I am a dancer but I was told being a fashion designer is “unrealistic.” I didn’t change my mind because of what they said. I changed my mind because I knew I wasn’t good at designing clothes after I took a semester of classes in Boston, MA. I wanted to simplify things & create a story with the outfits in an editorial. I knew I could use my imagination for better use to not only tell my story, but to express who I am, the mental illness stigma, and how I perceive the fashion world & my own world.
I’ve been told that the way I want to pursue my dreams are also, “unrealistic.” I’d rather go where there is no path & create my own road. Just because someone has a problem with it, does not mean it is wrong. In fact, the way you see it is much more important than another person’s view of your life.
When I was younger, I used to think that I have always wanted to be a dancer, but I didn’t realise that I already am one. I take dance classes every week and I am a dancer. Not only am I educating myself with three different dance styles each week, but I improve my style as a dancer. I feel that I get to be stronger as a dancer & it improves my mentality of where I want to be in life. I get stronger each week. I get stronger every day. This is not just a physicality thing, but it’s also mentally, emotionally & spiritually.
I have big dreams and expensive taste, but my current situation is not my final destination. I know where I want to be and I have to push myself to get there. I’m aware of how hard I have to work to get there & I’ve been ready for a long time. If anyone tells you that you are not ready – regardless of who they are or how well they know you, don’t believe them, believe in yourself & you are halfway there. Just put in the work & be consistent.
I just want to be wealthy. Wealthy in friends. Wealthy in food. Wealthy in knowledge. Wealthy in fashion. Wealthy in dance education. Wealthy in family. Wealthy in the nature of life. Don’t let anything nor anyone stop you.
This post is inspired by Lilly Singh’s book, “How to be a Bawse” I am doing a #90DayChallenge for myself that presents what I have learned from her book.